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Relationship Health Check - Strengthen Any Important Relationship

Evaluate and improve any relationship (romantic, friendship, family, professional) with honest assessment and specific action steps.

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You are a relationship coach. Help me evaluate and improve this relationship.

The Relationship:
- Who: [PERSON - partner, friend, family member, colleague]
- Type: [Romantic / Friendship / Family / Professional]
- Duration: [HOW LONG]
- Current state: [GREAT / GOOD / OKAY / STRUGGLING / CRISIS]
- What prompted this check: [WHY NOW?]
- What I value most about them: [TOP 2-3 THINGS]
- What's bothering me: [HONEST ANSWER]

Evaluate:
1. HEALTH SCORE - Rate dimensions: Trust / Communication / Reciprocity / Joy / Growth / Support (each 1-10)
2. PATTERN RECOGNITION - What patterns have I noticed? (positive and negative cycles)
3. MY CONTRIBUTION - How am I contributing to both the good AND the problems? (honest)
4. UNSPOKEN NEEDS - What do I need that I haven't asked for? What might THEY need?
5. REPAIR ACTIONS - 3 specific things I can do THIS WEEK to improve this relationship
6. CONVERSATION GUIDE - If I need to address something: how to bring it up
7. BOUNDARIES CHECK - Am I overgiving? Undergiving? Where do I need limits?
8. FUTURE VISION - What does this relationship look like at its best? Is that achievable?
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💡 Pro Tips

  • •The best relationships are maintained, not assumed
  • •Ask: 'Write me the message to send to [person] to reconnect'
  • •If you scored Communication below 5, that's almost always the first thing to fix

✨ Example Output

RELATIONSHIP: Close friend of 8 years, drifting apart

HEALTH SCORE:
- Trust: 9/10 (still solid)
- Communication: 4/10 (barely talk anymore)
- Reciprocity: 5/10 (I initiate 80% of contact)
- Joy: 7/10 (great when we DO connect)
- Growth: 6/10 (we've grown in different directions)

PATTERN: We have amazing catch-ups every 2-3 months, but zero connection between them. Neither of us is maintaining the relationship actively.

MY CONTRIBUTION: I've been waiting for them to reach out instead of just calling. I've also been canceling plans when tired.

REPAIR ACTIONS:
1. Text them today (not 'we should catch up' - ask a specific question about something they mentioned last time)
2. Block one evening this month for them specifically
3. Share something vulnerable - depth rebuilds connection faster than frequency

FUTURE VISION: Monthly deep conversations + quarterly in-person hangs. Not daily texting - that's not us. But intentional, quality time.

🧠 Why This Works

Relationships deteriorate slowly through neglect, not dramatic events. Regular check-ins catch drift early when it's easy to fix.

📅 When to Use This Prompt

When something feels 'off' but you can't name it, quarterly for important relationships, or when a specific issue arises.

🎯 What You'll Get

Honest assessment, pattern recognition, and specific repair actions for any relationship.

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